i’m coming off of a busy weekend where i had a doubleheader in wedding shows, which makes it a perfect time to finally talk about my experience participating in the big fake wedding nyc. for those of you who are saying the big fake what? the big fake wedding (tbfw) is a wedding show alternative, in the form of, you guessed it, a fake wedding. the ‘wedding’ is actually a vow renewal, each of the hand-selected vendors is really able to showcase their product/talent in a real wedding setting rather than simply setting up a table and standing in front of it. each year the ladies behind tbfw put on around 20 different shows. this past year i was lucky enough to be selected to participate as the day-of-coordinator for the december 11, 2018, new york city show.
being the day-of-coordinator for tbfw was a little different than what i’m used to. there was a lot less work that fell on me, i’ll be honest and say in the weeks leading up and the day i felt like i was forgetting something. it wasn’t because i was, but rather because the nyc tbfw gals take care of all the pre-planning. i usually start my day-of-coordination 3 to 4 months in advance, it’s during this time when we finalize details, create a ros (run of show), and really iron out the nitty-gritty. so you can imagine how weird it was to have all this done for me, and for me to only come up with a few concepts and just show up to do my thing. with that being said a huge shout out to jamie (planner/owner of cape cod celebrations) and katie, both women work for tbfw. they were the ones who did a lot of the pre-planning i’m used to doing. it was so lovely to work with you both!
let’s talk about my role in tbfw, in addition to hosting my own table in the tunnel of love, which was more of a typical show feel, but with a cuter name, i got to really show what i do.
I CREATED THE CONCEPT BEHIND THE COUPLES BIG EXIT
KEPT THE COUPLE AS WELL AS VENDORS ON SCHEDULE AND TIME
LEAD THE WEDDING PARTY IN A REHEARSAL
COORDINATED AND CUED THE CEREMONY
SPOKE A LITTLE WITH THE GUESTS AFTER THE CEREMONY TO INVITE THEM TO JOIN US IN THE ‘RECEPTION’
HELPED JAMIE AND KATIE WITH SET UP AND BREAKDOWN OF ANYTHING NOT BROUGHT IN BY THE VENDORS.
AND OTHER DETAILS WHICH ARE DEFINITELY ESCAPING ME RIGHT NOW
i can’t express enough how amazing this experience was. as a coordinator at a typical wedding show it’s hard to show couples what i do and the benefit of working with a coordinator. i don’t necessarily have a physical product that shows or promotes what exactly a coordinator does, so having the experience to show attendees myself in action was something great. i had the opportunity to really show potential clients, what i do, how i do it and the personality and passion i do it with. it was a great way to show the role of coordinator as well as a chance to see if i’m the right fit for them, which is something important since we will spend a lot of time together.